Monday, April 7, 2008

I don't think there is a fitting title for this post.

Thank you for the good thoughts yesterday – I am feeling much better today. It was a busy weekend. I need to remember to slow down.

Nesting – Here is an example of how my cleaning and brain works. I made dinner and I was trying to put the dinner away and put the chicken in the fridge for the next days’ dinner. I found old things that needed to be thrown out. Left over containers, half empty soda cans, etc. So at 9:30 I am in the kitchen pulling everything out of it to scrub it down “because it’s dirty”. Meanwhile, I have a house full of family. E walks in and asked wtf am I doing? He is laughing because he follows up with, hey crazy lady, nesting much … I had all our fridge contends all over the kitchen scrubbing the shelves… He reminds me that I was only supposed to be putting the food away and getting the chicken out of the freezer to go into the fridge … That I am supposed to be taking it easy….. So he helped me get all situated and back in the fridge and sent me to bed …. And told me not to touch anything else … go straight to bed …

Musings from my Mil so far
My thoughts

“Now you know why I did it so much” referring to pregnancy had having kids ….
No…no I do not know why, our situation is much much different

“I can’t believe that you haven’t gained a lot of weight, I gained so much weight at your age when I was pregnant”
That was because at my age, you were on kid #5

“When are you going to name this poor child, I can’t believe he doesn’t even have a name yet, poor baby is already being neglected”
No response

“I only had 2 kids at home for Easter this year. It was the saddest Easter ever. What am I going to do next year?”
OMG, the youngest is 4, the next one is 10 – tend to them, take them to fun Easter egg hut places instead of moping”

"Now that you know you can have kids, you ready for more?" Blank stare

Giving much unwanted assvice on how to do my lo.ve.nox shot, disapproving where and how my Dr told us to do it. Insisting that I am going to either hurt the baby or tear the placenta …. Seriously an awful awful awful thing to say to me … I ready try to combat my anxieties, I do not need others filling my brain with negative thoughts.

So many more … The vacation isn’t over and all that was only in 3 hours. …

22 comments:

Nurse Lochia said...

I really hope that there isn't something that happens to make you completely nuts/annoying when you are the mother of boys and they get married! Man, is she something else.

Jen said...

Ah, mother-in-laws. Yikes. I don't blame you for cleaning out the fridge at all.

sara said...

Wow...she sounds pretty intense. I'm sorry sweetie. As if you need more stuff to worry about. And asking about another child? Is she crazy? Doesn't she realize you might want to enjoy the first one and focus on you and mini vann? Ew I just realized it's been awhile since I've cleaned my refrig...add that to the to do list today.

Chas said...

Oh, you are much nicer than me...I'd have said something in response to every one of those comments. In-laws mean well (I think..usually), but it's hard having "parents" that aren't really your parents...you know?

My mother in law likes to allude to things instead of coming out and saying them. Like before we had Lila she'd say to my brother in law, "Brian, I wish you'd have a baby so I can have a grandchild." She said this to him...the unmarried, no girlfriend brother in law....right in front of us, the married people. She was basically tell us to have a kid without telling us to have a kid, which somehow makes it more annoying.

alison said...

Ugh. I'm so sorry. Sounds stressful!

Katie said...

Wow. I wish MILs (and mothers, for that matter) would learn when to keep their mouths shut. Or at least how to phrase things. I will say that my MIL hasn't been TOO bad, but my mother. . . ergh.

Sorry you've had to endure such lovely houseguests. Hoping they leave soon!

Mel said...

Your MIL said all this to you??
My mouth is open, I am so shocked she would speak to you like that. Sorry, she's a whore.
There, I said it.
Glad you are feeling better, only great things in your future my dear.
*hugs*

waitinginline said...

WTH is wrong with that woman? Come on! So now you're fixed? Whatever caused your infertility is now repaired? Sweet. Boo evil MIL! And she seriously says you're neglecting your unborn child because you haven't 100% picked out a name? Pshaw! And since when is she a doctor? She may be an expert at getting knocked up, but that doesn't mean she knows anatomy. Again, Boo evil MIL!

So does the fridge look any better? Hahahaha @ nesting!!!

Courtney said...

I'm so glad to hear that you are surviving the in-laws (however difficult it might be). And hooray for clean fridges!!!

Hang in there. :)

Searching said...

Sheesh. That would drive me up the wall. Hope she chills out some!!

Marcy "meg" said...

Aren't MIL's the best? You probably handled it the best way though!

Yea for nesting!

Caro said...

MILs arrrgggh!

Oh and we haven't picked out a name yet either. I suppose we should really with only 2 weeks left until the due date.

christina(apronstrings) said...

dear MIL,
suck it!
love,
apronstrings.
seriouisly, i would love to kickj her in the shins.

gracechild said...

ah well at least you don't have to go out and pay for a stranger to rain on your parade... hold on to what you know is the truth. Thank God she doesn't live with you :)

Geohde said...

Makes me very glad that my MIL lives interstate. She's lovely, but that kind of stuff in person is a bit much,

J

Topcat said...

That's just beyond. So beyond it's LAUGHABLE. People like that .... are so dissatisfied and restless in themselves, they are not even close to being aware of how they are operating in the world, and how their ridiculous comments can affect other people.

I'm sorry some of her comments are hurtful, though. Is she gone yet??

Road Blocks and Roller Coasters said...

Gotta love Mother-in-laws. They just always seem to say the right thing, don't they? :P Hang in there! :) HUGS!

MoonNStarMommy said...

Awwwwwwwww {{HUGE HUGS}} MIL's are stupid 99.9% of the time. You just let it go in one ear and right out the other!

waitinginline said...

HAPPY THIRD TRIMESTER!!!!!!!!!!!

Kristen said...

I'd claw my eyes out. Ugh! Hope the craziness ends soon. XOXO

Dr. Grumbles said...

Oh...my...

How jaw droppingly awful.

vamplita said...

Geez, someone ought to get a muzzle for her! You know, perhaps you can offer her a nice Benadryl cocktail... not enough to do harm, mind you, just knock her rude arse out.