Wednesday, March 19, 2008

PSA

I don't even know where to start. I am a pretty open and honest person. I know that by posting ANYTHING on the world wide web, I am opening myself up to a universe of people. (which sometimes brings judgements) We all know that it takes all kinds to make the world go round and I respect that. I am not a fan of censorship, I think one should be allowed to say what they want when they want and have opinions that change like the seasons if they so desire. I am and will always be a fairly open and way too honest and always forgiving of a person. I say what I want on my blog and try my very best to respect the human race. In the past, I have received some very helpful anon comments - but as of late, these anon comments have been very judgemental and down right hateful. I try to live by the rule of only writing/commenting things that I am able to stand confidentially behind. I know that I should not assume that others will do the same, but I sort of did. With all that said, I am now requiring all comments be from an open ID. Remember that behind these blogs, there are real live people with real live feelings. Some times it's best to follow the rule your mother told you in kindergarten "If you do not have anything nice to say(type), don't say anything at all"

26 comments:

waitinginline said...

I hate that it's come to this, but AMEN!

All I really need to know about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.

These are the things I learned:
Share everything.
Play fair.
Don't hit people.
Put things back where you found them.
Clean up your own mess.
Don't take things that aren't yours.
Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Flush.
Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
Live a balanced life - learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
Take a nap every afternoon.
When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.
Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup - they all die. So do we.
And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned - the biggest word of all - LOOK.

Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation. Ecology and politics and equality and sane living.

Kate said...

People who leave anon hateful comments, don't deserve to be a part of the discussion!

alison said...

Amen.

Rachel Inbar said...

I'm sorry you've had to deal with hurtful comments. I wonder how empty someone's life has to be in order for them to feel that they have to hurt others...

Thank you for your comments on my blog :-) I look forward to seeing pictures of your treasure in a few months :-)

Morrisa said...

What! I must have missed Anon's comment until I went back and looked..what a real bit*h! I hate when people have nothing better to do with their life then to insult someone else. Sounds like a very jealous and bitter person to me. I am so sorry that you have to deal with such immaturity. ((hugs))

sara said...

Wow again! I can't believe someone would leave unkind words to another person in their blog..don't they know if you have nothing nice to say say nothing at all? On a lighter note I'll have to send you an email about the subject at hand...only because I don't want to get any nasty ones myself! Let me just say I'm always here for ya girl...always sending hugs your way!

Cibele said...

I agree with Kate. I am sorry that you had to read those hateful comments...

Kathy V said...

I saw that anon comment on your last post that prompted this psa. There is no reason somebody should say that to you. I am sure that the rude anonymous person took something that you said out of context cause I have never seen a comment from you that is rude or ignorant. You will be a wonderful mom to Mini. I am so sorry that somebody could not put their name beside their comment and say something so hurtful. You will be a wonderful mom. Hugs to you.

LIW (Lady In Waiting) said...

I am troubled that you have been receiving hateful comments. I will never understand why people enjoy doing that....

You are clearly one of the kindest people I have ever "met." You deserve nothing but supportive and loving comments!

XOXO

Baby Deux! said...

WHY WHY WHY do people have to leave ANON rude messages? They need to grow some balls. If they have an opinion then they need to reveal who they are.

And WHY WHY WHY would someone be rude to YOU????

I am PIZZED!

Wordgirl said...

You are one of the kindest, sweetest and thoughtful writers in this blog-o-sphere...I'm really saddened about the anon. comments.

It's hard not to take them to heart, I know...but try your best to release it...my dad had an expression "don't wrestle with a pig cause you get dirty and he enjoys it"

Don't wrestle that pig. :)

Pam

gracechild said...

I'm upset on your behalf. i think you have been so sweet, open and honest about so many things, your blog has been a blessing and an education for me. Shame on anyone who seeks to abuse that privilege. Its a real shame.

Hilary (The Trying Game) said...

What a shame to have to do this but reading the anonymous comment on your last post makes me totally understand and support your decision.

But just know that all of us out here in blog land love and adore you and stand by you every step of the way!

Sorry you had to put up with this. Quite undeserved.

Adriane said...

I agree with your decision wholeheartedly. What's up with all these hateful, anonymous comments lately anyway? I find them revolting.

You will be a great mother. Screw ANON!

Marcy "meg" said...

I am sorry you have had hateful comments! I know you don't deserve them at all!!!!

Mel said...

Oh Farah, that is so sad. I am so sorry you've had to deal with rude commentors!! Some people have so much hate in their soul, it's hard to understand. You are one of the sweetest souls I've encountered in my life, you deserve so much better.
I will pray for those people that left you such unkind words. They could use a little kindness in their life.
*hugs*

Katie said...

I have been thinking about taking away anonymous comments.

Malloryn said...

I'm so sorry that you had to deal with such awful comments. You're perfectly justified in disallowing anonymous posters. I'll never understand people who feel the need to leave hateful words.

hope548 said...

I don't understand people going around being rude to bloggers. They have no right to pass judgment based on a small section of your life! I don't blame you for not allowing anon comments!
And cheers to waitinginline for having your back like that!

My_Herstory said...

I actually seen that yesterday, I was shocked and rather angry that someone would post that on your blog. I think you're one of the nicest people I could ever meet online. You are always supportive of others and very caring. Someone obviously has personal issues to get over, they obviously lack the confidence in their own thoughts and opinions or they would happily leave their name. Whoever it was doesn't deserve to be known anyways posting comments like that. Not even worth the time!
You're a good woman, and a good mother. Some people just like to create drama and spread negativity.
I enjoy your blog and thankyou very much for sharing it with us all, and for visiting our blogs everyday and leaving friendly comments. You are very loved amungst us bloggers!
Some people just have nothing better to do. Makes me angry GRRRRR!

lub said...

I am sorry that some people are such jerks! This is your blog and you should post whatever you want/ whenever you want to! Its not like you are forcing anyone to read. (Not that any of us need to be forced because we love to read your blog!). I hope that your feelings aren't too hurt and you realize that there are tons of us out there who love you and think your blog ROCKS!

Geohde said...

I am sorry that people have chosen to be hateful behind the guise of anonymity. It is cowardly,

J

Polka Dot said...

People that post those types iof comments anonymously are cowards.

I love the book waitinginline quoted from. It has some really good points in it.

My Reality said...

Anon can suck it.

You are one of the most supportive people in this community, you deserve the same respect you pay all of us. I am sorry you got hit with such a cruel comment.

tryingin2007 said...

well said sista! sorry to drag you into this mess. some of these anon posters are simply just too pathetic and lame to comment behind a "real" identity.

nancy said...

That's terrible.

I used to be in the firing line of some horribly hateful anonymous comments. They were SO terrible. I would never ever wish that on anyone. It was terrible.

I have some strong opinions and I say them when I want to, but I ~always~ attach my name to it. And, as you've seen before, whenever I do have something to say that's "debatable", I contact that person to let them know about it.

I went back to look at what was said and I saw the comment to you. I have no idea what you said to prompt that, but what an ignorant comment. I was 35 or so weeks pregnant and toasted my friend's marriage with a glass of wine. The second pregnancy, I had a half pint of guinness right before my delivery for my birthday (3 days before delivery). I guess that means I'm a "bad mother" too.

This is getting long, but anon comments are something I've spent quite some time reading myself. You wouldn't believe the comments I've received - all because I'm not afraid to give my opinions on subjects. "If you get pregnant, I hope your baby dies". Shit like that. I put on comment moderation and just won't publish comments like that anymore. Comments like that don't deserve public space. Once I see it's a negative comment, I simply delete it and that's that.

Sorry you've had to deal with negativity. That sucks.