Monday, August 25, 2008

I will have Drama with a side of drama

*Phil's phone rings. It's one of his brothers Joe. "Mom hasn't been home lately, She is hanging out with a new guy, he just got out of prison. It's Stacy's best friend Shirley's dad. Mom just came home to grab clothes and sleeping bags and left with him"

Phil responds, "what about Mike?" (mom's current husband, #4)

Joe - "Oh, he is here, upset that mom is running around town with her new boyfriend."

Phil (30)- "Where are the rest of the kids?"

Joe (21)- "Tony (23) is upset and just cries because there is so much dysfunction and turmoil, Scott (18) just ignores the whole thing and is pissed off, Stacy (16) hangs out with Shirley in their bikini's on the roof acting like sluts, Jason(10) just plays computer games, and Beth (4) cries because she misses mom (48)."

Phil and Joe talk more to try and figure out what to do. This situation is all too familiar for them. Joe's father cheated on Mom about 10 yrs ago and Mom went out and met Mike and got pregnant with Jason and then got a divorce so she could marry Mike. Mike and Mom's relationship started out on rocky terms and has never really been great. Mom fills voids with babies every few years. They lost a child 6 yrs ago to tri.so.my 18 after they had Jason. Everyone was very traumatized because Mom never told anyone anything was wrong with the baby. She almost died in delivery because she had switched OB's so many times because she did not like the news they gave her. The delivering OB didn't even know the baby was T.risom.y 18. Mom told everyone after the fact that the Dr's were telling her things but She didn't want to beleive them and that If it was bad, God would not have let her get pregnant. And being pregnant meant God was making things better and they were going to be ok. Mike took this news very, very very badly and did not grieve well and was Very upset that Mom did not tell anyone things were not good. A few yrs after the loss, Mom tricked Mike into having Beth.

A few days ago Mike calls Phil. He is worried about Phil's Mom. She is doing stupid things and he is worried that Mom is sleeping with boyfriend and trying to get pregnant again. And he is mad that Mom is having a felon around his kids.

Phil explains to Mike that he needs to step in and do something. Something smart, nothing impulsive and crazy but something to save his marriage and help stop Mom from doing really stupid things.

A few days go by, a few million phone calls from the Kids and Mike ... Result in a phone call that Mike was found in the floor one morning and had OD'd on some pills. Nine 1 one was called, Mike went into the hospital unresponsive and is currently in I.CU on a ventilator. While Mom is playing house with Felon. Or Course, he has moved in. He doesn't have a job, cash, life. He is sponging off her . She enjoys it because "he tells her all the right things" He makes her "float".

Phil, being the oldest of 8, feels the need to drive over and see what the heck is going on. So he packs up his family and heads that way.

After spending some time with Mom and the Kids, he realizes more bad things are going on and that Mom has lost all self respect apparently. Mom just wants to be "happy" and dang it, She Deserves to be happy, even if it means no one else is. She is happy to be lusted after by the Felon and enjoys waking up next to him. (she says all this while she is clutching on tightly to her grandchild) While Beth, the 4 yr old is insanely jealous of the grandchild. Beth admits that she hates the grandchild because it is making Mom not hold her anymore. (this attitude and meanness from the four yr old continues and only gets worse all weekend Phil and his family are there) Beth starts hitting and kicking Mom while Mom holds grandbaby. Because "Mom doesn't love {her} anymore and she is going to pout until mom holds" her.

Phil's Family packs up on sunday and heads home feeling at a loss, brokenhearted from disappointment, and ill from the matter at hand. Adultery, Disregard for humans (and actually animals too *another long story), Pure disguised .. What next, What else could this Mom possibly do next to upset her and her children's lives?

*names may have been replaced to protect the innocent IF there were need to protect the innocent.

18 comments:

Sugar and Ice said...

Is this your husband's family?!

jlraynes said...

That certainly IS a lot of drama.

(ICLW)

Cassandra said...

Returning your ICLW comment...
Ugh, that sounds like a tremendous amount for you and your husband to deal with, on top of your own lives. Plus, it sounds like you never quite know when the next crisis is coming. So sorry to hear about that. At least you and Phil have perspective on the situation. Hope the drama calms down!

Rachel Inbar said...

I feel really bad for Beth. Can someone get her out of that situation?

Kate said...

I am so sorry! Family drama is no fun...

Jen said...

My goodness, that is a lot of drama. I hope it settles down soon.

Barb said...

Holy shit sweetie. I'm so sorry.

alicia said...

is this true??? cause if it is that sure is some drama with a side of drama! wow!!

here from ICLW

Kristin said...

Oh wow...that would be a ton to deal with. I sure hope life calms down soon.

PS...thanks for dropping by my blog

Meghan said...

Wow--so sorry you've got all that crap going on. Hope they can all start acting like adults. Besides you 3, I feel bad for the poor 4 year old...

Dreamer4agift said...

Wow, I had to read the first few paragraphs to keep up with the story there's so much drama! I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this...eh,I mean, the characters in the soap opera. I don't know what I would even begin to do if I were in that situation. So instead, sending hugs and good, strong thoughts your way. xoxo

Marcy "meg" said...

Oh my... I am sorry... that is quite a lot to deal with. I hope it gets better.

Elizabeth said...

good lord, those poor kids.

gracechild said...

I don't know what the IM symbol for "my jaw is on the floor is" but my jaw IS on the floor. WOW

Caro said...

OMG! Unbelievable.

jayleigh said...

Oh my good GOD!!! Who in blazes is this? And what kind of freak show do they have for a life???

Sarah said...

Wow.

Amanda said...

I really hope that "Mom" isn't able to have another baby. Ugh!!

Those poor kids...all 8 of them. :-(