I read a blog this week that was talking about how they do not usually post pictures of their children on an IF blog for sensitivity reasons. I understand that - It's an IF community and the raw sight of children could be very upsetting to us at different times in our journey. I have not forgotten that - I know that I am a HUGE offender of splashing my child on my blog. I wanted to share what I posted on her blog in reference to children/baby pics on blogs. I wanted to make it clear to any of my readers that when I post a picture of MT on my blog, I do it because I feel like he is apart of this community. I feel like he is apart of all of you that have commented, emailed, sent prayers, good vibes and any amount of support for me and my situation. I feel like he is just as much apart of this community as the next TTC blogger. I do. I really do. Just like the saying "It takes a whole village to raise a child", I believe that is how MT got here. This whole village! So I want to share him with you. It is not at all done out of selfishness or have anything to do with me forgetting what it is like in the trenches of cycling. There isn't a day that goes by that I do not think about this community. The experience, friendship and knowledge have carried me through many hard times and I want to give back so others can feel what I have felt and am feeling. I really feel a strong bond and connection to so many. I just wanted to clarify that. Her post made me think
On a lighter note, I was watching dir.ty jo.bs the other day. It was an episode about a dairy farm. I never in a million years thought I would be jealous of a Dairy cow .. But the Host was explaining that the dairy cow gets hooked up to a milk pump for 40 mins and produces 8 gallons of milk ..... I will be honest, I became extremely envious ... OF A DAIRY COW ..... Seriously? ... Who is this person blogging ... The Vet was also explaining how they check for mastitis and then showed them giving their utters a "cleaning" with this fire torch ... to burn off the hair ... OMG really? The cows never flinched at all when they used the fire, the vet swore they couldn't feel it ...... WOW am I really talking about this ... Ok well there is where my mind is ... apparently I am still nuts. If you were concerned
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I saw that episode! How does that vet know that the cows don't feel it? I think someone needs to try it on him! You can't tell me that they don't feel anything at all from it (even though they don't flinch). My boobs are all in a twitter after just watching!
I saw that episode too! And I was equally as amazed. I was in awe with the 24x7 milking operation. Yikes.
Thank you so much for the comment on my post. Just as I made you think, you made me think too. You are 100% correct, I do feel as if I somehow helped with my IF friends' babies. That's why I enjoying looking at their pictures so much! So I need to get over myself and post all the pictures I want. Thank you! :-)
Fara, how funny! You know you have an infant when... you are jealous of a dairy cow! How awesome would that be though, 40 minutes and 8 gallons...I'm proud of myself for 20 minutes and 5 oz. And about that baby, keep sharing he's gorgeous. And I know the pain of baby pictures on someone else's blog, but it also always somehow encouraged me to keep on going.
I love your pics of MT. :)
I'm sorry you don't have more support about BF. That's great that there is a support group. Did the lactation consultant refer you? If not, maybe you could let her know about the group and she could pass it on to new mommas. Maybe rack you up some more members.
I think a coverup or even a blanket would be a good idea for you. Let you ease into the public BFing. Screw what everyone else says, you are doing what is best fo ryou and your baby and that's what matters. Even if you had a different opinion now, it is NOW that matters. You can't judge your past thoughts because you were in a different time and situation. Things change, especially once you have a child. Keep up the great work! Moooo!
Post pictures of MT! Its your blog and I agree- he is apart of this community. Hmmm- 8 gallons in 40 minutes? I AM jealous! I'm with Jen (above)- 5 ounces in 20 minutes is the most I've ever pumped!
I always feel that underneath everything else, it is my blog and it needs to reflect where I am in my life. And I always totally understand if someone has to stop reading because of where they are in their life.
But yes, keep posting pictures! He is part of the community and besides that, he is SO CUTE.
I love the baby pics! Even before I was pregnant, I loved baby pics on IF blogs --- how else can we believe that the struggle ever pays off???
I've always felt like a blog should just represent whatever that person is going through at that moment in their life. My blog has never been about infertility (as you know, I do that on a private blog) partially because I didn't want to pigeonhole myself into one category. Heck, I didn't even know we were exactly infertile when I started my blog. I just knew we weren't getting pregnant too fast. Anyway, I think most readers are so happy to see a fellow infertile get to where you are that they don't mind seeing pictures. Matter of fact, before I ever had Lila, I actually enjoyed reading infertility blogs and seeing those women come out on the other end with a little baby.
I'm kind of jealous of the dairy cows too, lol. I know I never pumped 8 gallons in 40 minutes...I was lucky to get 8 oz :).
I LOVE the pics!!! I've always enjoyed seeing baby pics and ultrasound pics. I agree with the hope-thing. It may not have always been what I wanted to see, but I've never been ashamed to look away from a blog if I wasn't in the place to see it.
40 gallons...wow.
I totally know what you mean about the pictures! I feel the same way about my Ausi. I know before I got pregnant.. seeing other people's pic's gave me hope!
In my eyes: pictures = hope.
And some days, hope is ALL I have.
Keep the pics of MT coming!
Oh wow - the fire torch vision made my boobs hurt, LOL! 8 gallons... now that is some serious milk :-)
Well put about the MT belonging to the community. I often feel like Spot is only doing as well as she is sometimes because she has a lot of people praying and sending good thoughts for her. I feel the same way about MT. You are right on the money - please continue to share your photos because I feel like I have been rooting for him for so long already. I want to continue to see him to do well. It makes me happy when I look at him and know that I have wanted him keep plugging along for quite awhile already. Keep sharing :-)
Saw that eppy too--my husband and I were fascinated (and a bit disgusted).
As for posting pictures--I feel the same way about Willow. If not for the IF and the IF community--she would not be here. It is totally fair for you to post pictures of him. (And he is SO cute!)
I feel the same way as you with pictures. My blog is about my experience and Lemy is just as much a part of that experience as I am. Plus, I am using my blog as an outlet to share with her someday and having those pictures are priceless.
As for the dairy cow thing...HA HA HA! That is great. I feel like a dairy cow at times when I'm hooked up to my pump all day long. :P
Farah, as someone who is still on her IF journey I can honestly say that the pics of MT are a blessing to me...they give me hope and I can see the fruits of the journey!
*If* I am having a bad day I can always click away (but I don't cos he is TOO CUTE!!) This is *your* space and it should reflect *your* life - thank God MT is a part of that now so you post away!
It is weird but I also don't post that many pics of my little one or talk too much about her because I don't want to hurt feelings. Also when I was preggo I didn't like to post about it, because I knew there were so many others suffering from IF and loss.
I am pretty sure there is nothing wrong with it, it is just that I don't feel like it. And it is weird, because when I was still on the trenches I always liked to see baby pictures, but then I understand there is a lot of others who don't, and I respect it.
I love, love, love to see how MT is growing and I am with you about wanting to be a COW!!!...
I think your pic's are awesome, its good to see the happy ending to all that we go through. Plus a blog is your space to express what you're going through in your life. The baby pics are a bonus hehe.
I don't feel badly at all that you post photos. I love seeing him. :) You are very open, and that's one of the wonderful things about you. If I'm having a bad day, I won't look.
It's also your blog ya know. :)
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