Saturday, September 6, 2008

Not sure what to call this

BF/pump talk in red skip if not interested:
The pump is fixed .. Half was a operator error and half was a lil fine tuning was needed. It is fixed. It will do the job. (operator error was: When I was only putting one side it, It wasn't sucking very hard .. So I would, stop and complain that the vacuum wasn't great and get frustrated .. Once you put the other side in, and have both going at the same time, It works perfectly, It just Knows ..... Slaps Forehead ....

So here is my 2 cents after using it to pump a few times now. I really do like the hospital one. I like the 2 expression features. The new pump/style Ad.vance has the 2 expression phases (i believe - from the specs on the Internet). The feature is fantastic. It is what I believe has made my pumping more efficient. I start pumping with the expressing flow then it cuts off and after the first wave of milk stops running out, I hit that button again and by the time it has run it's cycle and getting back into regular pumping, more milk has been expressed. So If I were in the market for a m.edel.a pum.p, I would go with the PISA. *Keep in mind there are other pumps, I have only used the Mede.la ones. Since we did get the pump up and running, (but the old ones do not have the 2 phases) I am going to give it a whirl on vacation. **(if we get to go - more on that in a minute) If I find that I am still pumping the same amount and I feel it is able to express all of me milk, I am going to return the rented one at the end of the month. My many concern is that I am able to produce the same amount of milk. I am quite obsessive about my supply and I want every last drop out So I can put it in bottles and keep freezing some. (Yes, I have cried over spilled milk - Only once though. It was 5oz. At that time, It was the end of the world. It was late and it was early in my pumping days)

Ok moving on - I know some people out there just hate football.. I am NOT one of them. I love football. Always have. My parent's used to take me to the Buc's games when Tes,teverde was QB and they were Orange/White with a terribly dumb looking buccaneer logo. I was sold. Then, I went to a college with a national champion football team (not even close now though). In this town, there is only one sport and it's the only thing in town to do. So, I am pretty into the fall season of football. It started young ... Now I get to do the same: Starting him young, subjecting him to what I know is good for him
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He looks pretty happy about my decision.

**there is a Hurristorm out there right now and of course No weather person knows where it is going. Some models show it hitting pretty near us and it looks like a pretty nasty storm. I received an email from the airline letting me know that our trip may be interupted by a hurricane. They would send out more information as the storm and date were closer to let me know about any cancelations and arrangements. We are supposed to leave Wednesday .. to be continued I guess.

The Drama Continues:

Joe called Phil to let him know that Mike was released from the hospital, but he is not sure where he is. All he knows is he is not staying at the house because Mom has let the Felon Boyfriend (FB) move in and take care of the younger children because he is "looking" for a new job and Mom needs someone to watch the younger children because the older children are all mad at mom and making themselves very scarce these days.

Phil calls Mom - Mom admits that Mike was released and so she drove his vehicle up to the hospital and gave him the keys and gas money. Mike drove himself to a facility treatment center. He will probably be there for 30 days. They have a further conversation about how Phil is pretty much disgusted at Mom and the whole situation. Phil calls Mom and adulteror. Mom tells Phil that it is not adultery, It is pre-martial sex because they are going to get married. Phil Laughs, He explains to Mom that this is SO NOT just pre-martial sex. She disagrees. Phil tries his best not to yell. He then asks Mom if she is pregnant again. Mom gets extremely defensive, never really answers the question, but does say that "Not that she knows of" and adds, "the only time in life she is happy is when she is pregnant". Which in Momspeak and reading between the lines, Mom is trying to get pregnant again ... ... Phil reminds Mom how old she is and how much of a risk it would be and how much of a burden it will be. Mom laughs at Phil.

Phil spends another hour listening to Mom's excuses, denials and explanations of why she is pursuing happiness in this manner. Because, this is her pursuit for happiness. "Mike gave {her} no choice, and is forcing {her} into the arms of FB". Phil is ill. Phil continues to explaining to Mom that FB doesn't have anything to offer - He doesn't even have custody of his own child - she is a ward of the state. FB is a convicted felon therefore, limited on jobs he can do, if people will hire him. He further explains that she is going to lose all that her and Mike have worked so hard for. Phil also reminded Mom of all the bad things that have happened in the past 3 months that she has been out having her little rendezvous. The 16 yr old got arrested for shoplifting while Mom and FB took their "kids" to the Mall, Many Many Many Fights with the older children because they are losing all respect for Mom and calling her names to her face. A visit from the Child services, cops being set to the house, a husband that tried to commit suicide, an four your old that misses her mom, etc .....

Phil explains to Mom that He is not ok with any of the situation and that She needs to get her act together before it is too late. He is worried that This is only the start of more bad things to come. He is scared that she is making irrational decissions that are going to come back and haunt her in the end. Mom and Phil Hang up ... Mom is bawling, Phil is teary-eyed. He is afraid that it will be the last time he talks to Mom for a very long time.

16 comments:

Jendeis said...

Can't believe how much MT looks like his daddy!

Sorry for all the family troubles; hope that everything works out ok.

Jill, Mommy of Tanner and Josie, our Clomid baby. :o) said...

Well, I have to say that I am happy that you showed the pic of MT before the continued drama story. (I still have a daughter to introduce him to!) Holy cannoli, sister. How the hell are you surviving the dysfunction?

Heather said...

I'm just now catching up on the drama. OH MY! I can't even wrap my brain around it all. Does the woman have any sort of mental illness? It truly sounds as if she needs some help, like medication of some sort. I feel bad for her and especially for her children. I could kick FB.

Hilary said...

Wow and i thought I had an interesting family!

Amanda said...

I'm so sorry that you're all having to go through that drama. I've already said it a few times, but it bears saying again...I really hope Mom is past her child bearing years.

Thanks for keeping us updated on the pump debate. I'm sure I'm not the only one you're helping make future decisions!

He looks so stinkin' cute in his Seminoles gear!!! And happy, too!

Jen said...

That is certainly a lot of drama. I hope it works out okay.

I think I would like football a lot better if it weren't so long. We already have a Patriots jersey for the baby.

Dreamer4agift said...

Oh my goodness with the drama continuing...I'm so sorry...I wish there was something I could say to make it better. Just know I'm thinking of you every day. ((hugs))

On a better note: MT is lookin' so FREAKIN' cute!!!! Goodness, I just want to squish him up!:-)

Happy Mommmy said...

Can someone get temporary custody of the young children. The 4 year old seems like she needs attention and stability.

Adriane said...

MT is so freaking cute. What a beautiful smile!!!

Sorry about all the family drama - hope it all works out soon.

alison said...

a) Yay for football! MT needs some Husker gear! :) You do corrupt them young down there. (I'm totally kidding, we've already received 3 Husker outfits and our kid is 4 inches long. ;)

b) Praying that you'll get to go on your vacation and the nasty storm will pass you by.

c) Holy crap. I don't even know what to say. The ones really losing in the situation are Mom's kids still in the house. (And obviously the older kids as well, but at least they can fend for themselves). I'm sure Mom won't let anyone step in to at least take the girl out of the situation for a little while. What a mess, I'm so sorry.

p.s. How is your mom doing, by the way? I've been thinking about you/her.

Gabby said...

Just wanted to say I LOVE my PISA! I have had the original before, and the PISA is so much like the Symphony from the hospital. Also, when you single pump, are you using the cork over the other whole? That will help make the suction stronger for single pumping. Glad you fixed your pumping issues!

Oh yea, I hope you don't weather anymore stores! I am tired of them. Worse thing about living in Florida!

Sorry to hear about the family trouble. I hope it all resolves soon! Isn't it crazy how much family drama comes on once a baby arrives? That is how it has been for our family. It isn't all because of the baby, but just seems it all come on at that time! Stressful!

LIW (Lady In Waiting) said...

Have I mentioned before how intimidated I am by breastfeeding??? And I all that don't know about it? So, I appreciated your point abouthaving to use both sides of the pump at the same time. I will remember that....

Since I am just catching up, boy do I LOVE your post about why you include pics of MT on your blog. I agree 100% with your reasoning. There's NO way LL would be a reality without the support of this community. I know I would have lost my mind and been deemed unable to be a mother. :-) Seriously, though, this community has helped me to work through the pain of IF so that I could make my way to loving LL. He will benefit from this community as much as I have. :-)

Thanks for your sweet post on my blog about my appearance. I am starting to struggle a bit with it.

XOXOXO

Malloryn said...

I'm so sorry to hear about the family drama. That must be so hard to deal with.

MT *really* loves the Seminoles outfit! What a cutie!

Barb said...

I am so so sorry Farah. It's just too horrible to even think about.

I was actually thinking how MT looked like you in that pic though! SOOOOOOOo cute. I'm glad DH has you.

Road Blocks and Roller Coasters said...

I heart my Medela PISA. And yes, it has the button where you can switch back and forth. It is definitely a lifesaver.

He is such a cutie! We are still arguing over which team jersey to purchase for Lemy. Eventually we will come to an agreement...that or I'll just get her the one I want her to wear! :P

Sorry to hear about all the family drama. Thinking of you and hoping it gets resolved soon!

((HUGS))

Marcy "meg" said...

I know I am late to this post. But I love football and love the outfit!

Sorry about the family drama!