Friday, March 5, 2010

Can you Hear it?

Today is a good day - I have it all together, I've had a shower (by myself), My kids slept in late (because we are just getting over Both of them having RSV again and 2.0 adding an ear infection to boot) BUT life is great. I feel rested and put together. What a huge difference it makes. I need to try to have more mornings like this.

I have a question - Intenets, PLEASE HALP!... My ears are ringing from MT;s new found favorite Olympic Sport. Screaming .. Skin Crawling, blood curdling, Ear Percing Screaming. What you didn't know it's an Olympic sport? Tell that to my Child. He is practicing and practicing to perfect it. I am afraid there isn't much more perfecting it I can take. Here I admit it, At first, I yelled back at himto stop yelling ..Fabulous Mothering style right.... I mean I can't imagine Why he continues yelling when his own Mother yells at him to stop yelling .... OY VEY! Parenting Fail 101. I certainly can teach that course. So now, after a few weeks of loosing my mind and trying to ignore it, I have variations of routes I have gone about getting him to stop. BUT NONE are working. Of course, I have stopped yelling (99.9% of the time but there is still .1% of the time that I just loose my cool and yell) I have tried to calming explain that mommie was wrong for yelling and yelling aka screaming is not nice nor a behavior that is acceptable or will be tolerated or will help you get your way in this house.

I mostly try my very best to ignore it because, I have found that ignored behavior for him works best. BUT I can't always just ignore it because he is waking the baby. Yes he is that LOUD. Some times I think he does it to wake the baby - which I have tried to explain to him that it is not beneficial for him to wake the baby it takes away mommie/mt time .....

Any suggestions? What would you do

7 comments:

Rebecca said...

Ewwww for the sickness. Hope all are better soon. I was going to suggest the ignoring it, but that doesn't seem to be working. What about putting him as far away from the baby as possible? We have a basement that is two floors away from the bedrooms...it's finished, so I'm not sticking anyone in some deep dark hole, but would that be an option?

Amy said...

Wow...I know I'll be dealing with the screaming soon. When Lexi screams now, we try to firmly tell her NO and to use her "indoor" voice. She's only 10.5 months old, so she really doesn't get it yet...but maybe putting him outside and telling him that he has to be outside to use the "outside" voice? Obviosuly, you'd have to watch him...but I think that's what I would try. And when he starts using a volume that is acceptable to indoor use, let him inside? Dunno...that's all I can think of.

Fertilized said...

Amy - that would be GREAT idea - except, Outside is where he loves to be and alot of hte screaming revolves around not wanting to come inside, leave the park, etc. I do not want him to associate screaming is ok for outside since in FL we spend ALOT of time outside. ;) Otherwise I would try that.

Gwynn said...

That sucks that you all have been so sick. Hopefully everyone will rebound soon!

Our sons are about the same age, so it's always been interesting to keep up with MT. My son, Dashell is going through this phase now too. He's definitely found his voice. We taught him to do an "inside scream". It's kind of whispered scream. He thinks it's amusing (which is good.) So, most times when he lets out a blood curdling scream at home (or heaven forbid, out at a restaurant) we can nip it in the bud by asking him to do his indoor scream. Good luck!! (My heart, and plugged ears, go out to you. I know many days I've wanted to rip off my ears and stick them in a drawer!)

Photogrl said...

I'm glad to hear everyone's on the mend, now!

I wish I had a suggestion, but Miss O. was never really a yeller.

((HUGS))

HereWeGoAJen said...

Eh, screaming. I didn't deal with much of it at daycare. The only thing I would do is to totally ignore him when he is screaming, which would be hard with 2.0 getting woken up. But maybe better in the long run? I imagine he's doing things for the attention right now. I did it for whining a lot at daycare and it worked like a charm.

You could also try whispering to him when he's screaming. A lot of kids will quiet down to hear what you are saying.

Barb said...

Oh sweets. That is so sucky. Good thing they're so cute eh? I have no advice and imagine I'll be crying to you when I'm dealing with the same thing.