Monday, October 26, 2009

Neither Hair nor There

A few months ago, One night while MT was spending the night at the grandparents house, My Dad gave MT's bangs a trim. (w/o my consent) They needed it, It was just bangs and I was not THAT concerned about it. I was alil grateful over it because it was something that I did not have to figure out when to schedule or pay for.

A few weeks ago, I left MT with the grandparents and went to a consignment sale. My dad kept sending me phone pictures of MT .. I just thought he was bored and playing with his new black berry. Well, When I went to pick him up, I noticed "something" looked different but I could not figure out what it was. Then I asked, Did you cut his hair? Phrased in a way hoping that he was going to say No ..... But instead, he said "Yes! I have been trying to show you for hours now." ...... I was devastated. I had to hold myself together. It has been a challenging time for my dad dealing with the lose of my mom's health, income, help, motivation, etc Dealing with Family members, phone calls and all that go with having a sick family member (he had just gotten off a bad news phone call) ....... And I certainly try my best to not cause more stress. BUT the words that were flying around in my brain were unbelievable .... I could not understand how/why he cut my son's hair!!!! I packed our bags up and put on a great face .... Held it together for quite some time .. Until I was trying to tell E about it.. It didn't look Terrible ... But I just did not want his first haircut to be done that way. Nor was I ready for him to have a haircut yet. I ADORE the mop top look and I want to keep it for as long as I can. He saved no hair for me, He took no pictures of the event .. I wasn't even there to see it ... I was so upset over it.

I have not mentioned it to my father because he was so excited that cut his hair. He has mentioned several times that he did wish that MT would have sat more still so he would not have messed up in a certain area. This weekend, he mentioned something about trying to fix it, blah blah, and I told him Absolutely not, I liked it a tad bit long and that I did not want him to cut it again ..... It was stated so diplomatically that I had NO IDEA who I was. Because the inner me was red faced screaming and fist pumping. Hopefully, I made my point though. Hopefully!

After a long stretch of fighting the Tot to eat, I think that MT is in a growth spurt again and coming back from feeling so lousy. I am back to feeding him meals/snacks about every 2 hours. He acts like he is starving and will inhale any kind of food offered. And I mean Anything. Which is going to be great for putting on some more pounds. He is by no means under weight. But he always falls into the under the 50 percentile for weight. Now, If I could just get my parents and husband aware of what "no diary" means. We will all be on the same page. I made a print out today! I hope this clears up any confusion on the issue ;) .. I also think he has some allergic reaction to Hay after our first encounter with Hay this weekend.

I have such a busy week. I am temping as a receptionist for a few days, We have 2 (maybe 3) dr's appointments, I want to carve a pumpkin with MT. I still need to finish his Halloween costume prep. We have a huge Halloween party on Thursday that I am helping with ... I need to work on my time management abilities. Temping has allowed me to start catching up on reading/commenting on your blogs. So hopefully, I will be all caught up in a few days ... To only get behind again, I am sure of that!

14 comments:

Heather said...

There are some firsts that I would be ok with missing - but NOT the first haircut. I'm so sorry.

I'm mad on your behalf. I know boys are different about things, but I can't imagine him not realizing this would be important to at least document and save the hair!

Barb said...

:( I'm glad he's feeling better though.

My Reality said...

I think I would flip out if someone cut my baby's hair! I admire your ability to keep your cool.

Photogrl said...

I can understand your frustration about the hair cut!

Just an idea, take or leave it, but when YOU are ready to cut his hair, take him to the barber shop/salon and make it a big deal...it will still be his FIRST professional hair cut, and you can get pictures and some hair to save, too.

I'm glad to hear he's feeling better.

((HUGS))

HereWeGoAJen said...

Blech! Let's pretend that one never happened and start again with the first haircut. And get it done at Disney.

christina(apronstrings) said...

Oh man-that's not cool. What a tough place to put you in. Sorry, buddy.

Janna said...

Kuddos to you for keeping your cool. I would have gone ballistic!! Sorry he didn't talk to you about it first so you could explain to him that it's something you wanted to document and be there for.

Kathy V said...

I am so sorry that you had to go through that. I feel like I go through the same thing with my mil thinking that it is okay to do whatever without my permission consent or approval. Hope you can still make the next one a big deal.

Cibele said...

My mom did the same thing. Thank goodness it was not her first hair cute , but she completely changed her look without asking me. I am sooooooooooo mad and I was not as cool as you were. Glad to hear that he is eating better. Lyla is going through an opposite phase

hope548 said...

I would be upset as well. I'm glad you held it together though. I'm glad all is going well otherwise.

Miss K said...

I kept Luke's hair long for a while. I'm sorry you weren't there for his first cut :(

Amanda said...

Oh no, I would be so sad about that too. I'm sorry :(

Rachel Inbar said...

My MIL cut my daughter's hair the first time - obviously without my permission. She is lucky that I REALLY love her son...

Dr. Grumbles said...

I would be furious. Sorry you were robbed of that memory :(