tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post1348436072976792968..comments2023-11-10T06:33:05.899-05:00Comments on Awkward Moments: My TakeAwkwardMomentshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11854477296635420810noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-15801604638377538712009-04-08T16:46:00.000-04:002009-04-08T16:46:00.000-04:00Great post my friend. And you are so right about ...Great post my friend. And you are so right about the datebook... if ONLY it was that freakin easy. Wow.<BR/><BR/>I love your outlook on all of this.. thanks for sharing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13194940947748022677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-86725384705610105252009-04-04T20:45:00.000-04:002009-04-04T20:45:00.000-04:00I am now an adoptive mom and feel like I am a diff...I am now an adoptive mom and feel like I am a different mom b/c of all i went through to be a mom. Not all of my friends are mothers and I still have that mindset of trying to talk about something other than naps, teething, etc. It is great being a mother but there are other things to talk about esp. when not everyone in the room is a mother. I totally agree that it is SO weird that people can plan out their births. What a freakin concept. It does seem fictional. My infertility is there for everyone to see b/c we are a biracial family. Most people would assume correctly that we cannot have children biologically. They say that parenting is parenting- it doesn't matter how you got your children. That is true and false at the same time. I think that I also enjoy every single moment. I notice everything we do together b/c I envisioned doing these things for 4 years. Maybe I notice just a little bit more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-76404534248967664172009-04-04T17:03:00.000-04:002009-04-04T17:03:00.000-04:00I'm already experiencing the "when are you gonna t...I'm already experiencing the "when are you gonna try for #2" question...and I haven't even gotten #1 into the world yet! I feel awkward myself answering it b/c a part of me would like to think my body will just "know" what to do next time. Then again, what if it doesn't, how long do we wait before we try again (especially if it takes another 3+ yrs!)? Yes, I still feel infertile, every day, even while watching my body change. So many thoughts but what to do with them?<BR/><BR/>You're a great mom, Farah, and MT is lucky to have you:-)Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01484007558206947938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-27149345990720796992009-04-04T11:46:00.000-04:002009-04-04T11:46:00.000-04:00You are rocking in this role, Farah.You are rocking in this role, Farah.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-83611030239233826032009-04-03T22:30:00.000-04:002009-04-03T22:30:00.000-04:00Great post!And Photogrl is right, your parenting c...Great post!<BR/><BR/>And Photogrl is right, your parenting confidence is showing through. You're doing a great job growing and adjusting!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10382865901845181550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-64850304021844469912009-04-03T09:03:00.000-04:002009-04-03T09:03:00.000-04:00I'm right there with you, sister! ((HUGS))I'm right there with you, sister! ((HUGS))RBandRChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06018306370247688896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-35930660899594185162009-04-02T23:53:00.000-04:002009-04-02T23:53:00.000-04:00This was a great post. Thank you for sharing.This was a great post. Thank you for sharing.Elle Charliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12165641048700957796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-59913050406555491942009-04-02T20:13:00.000-04:002009-04-02T20:13:00.000-04:00Eegads, it's like you and I live in // universes! ...Eegads, it's like you and I live in // universes! We seem to experience the same things at about the same time.<BR/><BR/>I feel so much of this and all I can say is that I think we are probably OVERALL better parents from our IF experiences. Well, that's my hope, anyway.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08961948894847619115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-62578033650188064962009-04-02T16:19:00.000-04:002009-04-02T16:19:00.000-04:00I love how honest you are when you talk about pare...I love how honest you are when you talk about parenting. And your confidence is showing through in your posts, Farah. <BR/><BR/>As someone who is going through secondary IF, I'd have to say that much of what you feel, I felt even after not struggling to have Miss O. It's normal to have the adjustment periods, and mommy groups are definitely uncomfortable no matter how you got there.<BR/><BR/>Oh, and I'm SO with you on the whole "Wouldn't you love to open your datebook and declare such things?" when it comes to more children! <BR/><BR/>Great post.Photogrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13709453130822429881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-17009847606293159442009-04-02T14:56:00.000-04:002009-04-02T14:56:00.000-04:00I love how you put it - "it's a contact sport." Y...I love how you put it - "it's a contact sport." You gotta play, but sometimes it hurts, and then you pick yourself up and keep going. Great post.E. Phantzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05812948199658356521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-50838521318741277452009-04-02T12:45:00.000-04:002009-04-02T12:45:00.000-04:00Interesting. I don't think I've thought this far ...Interesting. I don't think I've thought this far yet. I'm still trying to keep us all alive. :)HereWeGoAJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17457680345376171720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-31192102351716941862009-04-02T11:56:00.000-04:002009-04-02T11:56:00.000-04:00I'm surprised that people were surprised, too. In...I'm surprised that people were surprised, too. In the mom's group that I go to, we spent an afternoon once sharing (short) pregnancy stories. Infertility treatment for me, a few early miscarriages for somebody else, unexpected (and initially unwanted) pregnancy for someone else, adoption for someone else... very few of them were the straightforward "we decided to have a baby, and soon we were pregnant" types. Throw in some pregnancy complications, some labor complications, some NICU stays, and some ongoing baby health issues, and EVERYBODY had something that made their experience so far not go according to "plan."Nickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15614845410446113639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-46244327530214745542009-04-02T11:02:00.000-04:002009-04-02T11:02:00.000-04:00I am finally cathcing up on posts. I stink lately...I am finally cathcing up on posts. I stink lately!<BR/><BR/>Ahhhh, the dreaded "when will you have another" discussion. My hubby and I are having that one right now. He wants another next August. He just thinks that I will pop another round of Clomid and he will magically get the 3rd. That makes me laugh. He has it all set that in September or October I will go to my OB/GYN and have my progesterone tested to see if I am ovulating and POOF I will become pregnant again. He obviously doesn't get it.<BR/><BR/>I am shocked that people were surprised that you went through treatment. It is more common than ever now. Well, at least with people I know. They don't even bat an eye at my Clomid story and I don't even think twice when I tell it.Jill Ticehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07571739769307393083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-231056327765729534.post-57686696556229483392009-04-02T09:06:00.000-04:002009-04-02T09:06:00.000-04:00For me the feelings have not gone away, but people...For me the feelings have not gone away, but people asked me ALL the time when the twins were little about "how" they got here. It's intresting to me that no one asks me "how" N got here when we're just out. People who know me, know and people that ask questions I tell. I hope that in the future we don't feel that having gone through treatments makes us feel different. I taught a class not so long ago, in a group of 6, 5 of them had gone through some kind of treatment... that's a huge %. I think it's almost more common to have trouble vs. not.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03257165502930447842noreply@blogger.com